Last year, I set 15 goals for myself and out of those 15 goals I achieved 9. This year I intend to surpass every single one of my 2018 targets. I realised that the out of the 15 targets I’d set last year the 9 I achieved were loosely planned. I had a vague idea of how I would achieve them but I hadn’t actually cemented any plans. September came and I was in panic mode because I’d only achieved 4 out 15. I had…Continue Reading “The Goal Mapper: A Practical Guide to a Glow Up”

We live, we learn, we grow. At the end of each year, I take some time to reflect on the lessons I’ve learned through the year. I find it helps me set goals for the coming year and it also makes me feel good knowing I can quantify the growth. I want to share 8 lessons with you guys and to thank you for choosing to come on this journey with me. 1. Start with what you have Writer, Ijeoma Umebinyuo wrote, “Start now. Start…Continue Reading “Lessons of 2017”

  Before I’d started my dissertation I had told my parents that once I’d finished I would be taking 3 months to myself to just do nothing. In those 3 months, I read fiction and I started cooking I again.  I sang, I started writing again and I experimented with fashion. I made chokers and up-cycled clothes I’d bought from charity shops. I’d put my adult life on pause and rediscovered my lust for life. I kid you not colours seemed to be brighter (glasses…Continue Reading “Graduating with a Pass: A Lesson on Personal Victories”

Prose I suppose As I rest my head on my pillow I see it Right there What’s mine I take In my slumber I remember What’s mine She takes I still remember How she crept in Tried to make me forget What’s mine She took I remember What’s mine I take In my slumber She takes What’s mine Tries to make me for get What’s mine One day I won’t remember What’s mine. I wrote this evening because I was struggling to articulate this discomfort…Continue Reading “A note to self: Be more like your child self”

My Dad used to have this a poster on the wall in front of his desk. The poster read ‘Desiderata’ it was a poem by Max Ehmann. Time and time I again I would walk past it, read it but didn’t understand it. In his thick Zimbabwean accent, he would say, “Ruvimbo you need to read,” and I would say, “I did but I don’t get it.” He used to get so frustrated that I couldn’t understand it, he’d try to explain it to me hoping to…Continue Reading “Love and Literature”

empathy noun the ability to understand and share the feelings of another – Oxford Dictionaries Having someone confide in you is a great honour (that’s if they’re not leeches that use your emotional labour and give nothing in return but that’s another post for another day) because it means that they trust you enough to feel vulnerable. They entrust you to listen, to support and to offer counsel when asked. How to empathise right 1. The Golden Rule: Remember that it’s not about you! When…Continue Reading “The Art of Empathy”

There are so many privileges that we are blinded by. The fact of being blinded to those privileges is a privilege in itself. Now that my academia induced trauma has subsided, I’ve had ample time to reflect and process the whole experience. I’ve come to realise just how privileged I am to have had the opportunity to further my education. So many of my brothers and sisters weren’t able to. I also had the luxury of taking 3 months to just put my life on…Continue Reading “New Beginnings: Life Post Academia “